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Courtesy and the art
of helping others
Karate begins and ends
with courtesy.
The first time we walk
into a dojo, we have many reasons for wanting to take karate
lessons: to learn to protect ourselves, to build our confidence, to
get in better shape, to please our parents, to train for the
regional or national team. These individual goals determine how we
train and how often and how hard. But whatever the goal, in each
class and even when we are not in class, we must keep in mind that
Karate begins and ends with courtesy.
We start and end each
class with a bow of respect and courtesy. We start and end each
kumite match or kata performance with a bow. We bow to our teachers,
whether we see them in class or at the mall. We bow to our training
partners, whether they are senior or junior to us.
We do not often think
about another element of courtesy: With Karate-do, by extending help
to others and by accepting it from them, a [student of the art]
acquires the ability to elevate the art into a faith wherein he
perfects both body and soul and so comes finally to recognize the
true meaning of Karate-do. ...[He] who thinks about himself alone
and is inconsiderate of others is not qualified to learn Karate-do,
Funakoshi sensei said in his autobiography, Karate Do: My Way of
Life.
For even the youngest
student, this means that you extend a helping hand to those students
below you in rank, to those above, to your parents, family, friends
and more. It is as if you are climbing a ladder and the person below
you needs a helping hand ... or perhaps the person above you needs a
push!
When you give to
others, remember to give with your full heart and with all kindness.
For the other side of courtesy is the ability to receive help and
kindness. If you give (or receive) aid without the spirit of
kindness and whole heartedness -- in other words, if you give merely
for reasons such as showing off, trying to make the other feel
small, or for some other private gain -- then you do not understand
karate-do and the art of courtesy.
Take the art of
courtesy to heart, and you may come to understand that the
corrections and challenges your teacher hands you -- Make your
stance lower! Punch faster! Focus your eyes! -- these are words of
kindness. Your teacher and your senior students want to give you a
hand up the ladder. Take that helping hand ... and make your stance
lower, punch faster, focus your eyes. Show your spirit by training
hard and practicing with all your heart.
This, in turn, gives a
great gift to your teacher and to all those students of karate-do
who have gone before you, as well as those who will come after.
By Margaret Williams
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